Giving Up Your Empowerment

Empowerment represents the process of enabling individuals or groups to gain control over their own lives and make independent choices.

I much prefer the word empowerment vs. power. Empowerment is about YOU. It’s about gaining freedom and sovereignty over your own life. It’s never about controlling others or gaining a foot hold over others. Empowerment is a unifying word where everyone comes into their own force and light within, whereas power to me is an external force of duality where one group always loses.

In this day in age our white, heterosexual, male dominated, controlled, suppressed system has held the traditional construct of ‘power’ for far too long. But that is coming to a close.

When I was coming into the light of my own empowerment, it was not the shadow side of myself that gave me trepidation, it was honestly the brilliant goddess loving light within me that I was shying away from.

I was like for real–this is me? I am this empowered? I have the freedom, prowess, ability to be a compassionate force to be reckoned with?

Marianne Williamson states it so well: “It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God/Goddesses. Your playing small does not serve the world.”

It took time for me to process this. To fully and truthfully honor and embody the goddess that I truly am. To fully and truthfully acknowledge that I am the creator of my life and I have all the gifts, abundance, and empowerment to shape my reality.

Especially after years of giving up my empowerment to so much outside of myself.

I gave up my empowerment to my mom and dad. And more particularly to my mother. So much of what I did was in alignment with what they wanted, what they expected, and to please them. They by no means did this consciously–and I have nothing but unconditional love for my parents.

My mom always expected me to be a top-notch student, a good piano player, a polite little girl. The bar was set high–follow the rules, be a high-achiever in school, do math problems on summer break, practice the piano at 6:30 a.m.

My dad always expected me to be a top-notch athlete–which fortunately came easier to me. I dedicated my entire first part of my life to ski racing, which in actuality was my dad’s dream which he was living through me. However, I truly love skiing and always will. But I wouldn’t say my natural state is a highly competitive person.

Not only did I give up my empowerment to my parents, but I also gave it up to societal expectations and our modern paradigm. I am a very open and sensitive being and have been since I was a child so it was very easy for me to be swayed by the viral beliefs within society. I have always had a hard time separating myself from others–I am a deep empath and I’ve lived my life with an open heart. So societal expectations were extremely easy to mold myself to.

I chose the college I went to based on societal and parental expectations.

I lived in New York City because I was easily swayed by the sexy job in the city.

I bought a house based on what ‘looks’ appealing to the so-called ‘American Dream.’

I was living outside of my empowerment chasing what the system deemed would create happiness and what I was ‘worthy of.’

And within all of this–I had given up so much of my empowerment to others through the form of people pleasing.

In my last job–I gave up my empowerment to an entire system of corporate employees who thought they knew better.

But I know ALL of this was for a reason. I chose to give up my power to learn, to prepare, and to transcend the so-called ‘matrix,’ not only for myself, but for others. When we transform something within ourselves, we are also transforming and paving the way for others. We are creating energy in the collective consciousness for others to do the same. I know deeply this was cemented as part of my path–especially when it comes to the transformation of fear (but that topic is covered in other articles).

As I continued down my path to self-realization–to realizing that I am a human born goddess of the stars–I was no longer given a choice to keep giving my empowerment away. And in many instances this occurred with me kicking and screaming and completely falling apart at the seams. My old way of giving up my empowerment to so many people and expectations outside of myself was over. The force and love and light within me was growing stronger and stronger and I could no longer hide away from the empowerment within myself.

I had what felt like an intense falling out with my mom and a recalibration of our entire relationship.

I left any sort of career that could hold control over me.

Certain friendships either fell apart or shifted and needed to evolve.

I was stepping fully into my truth. I was becoming my true and whole self–both the divine embodied being and the human with big visions and dreams. I was transcending the matrix. The will of society no longer had a grasp on me. I was becoming more of ME. And I was stepping towards my empowerment of bringing forth my dreams, my visions, my gifts, my love and my light to the world.

I don’t live beholden to anyone’s expectations or beliefs anymore.

We don’t cut down a Christmas tree because the thought of harming a tree to have in our home for one month of the year is entirely ludicrous to me now.

My boys receive one intentional gift from us for their birthdays (and I emailed grandparents to gift the boys experiences vs. more ‘things.’)

I work when I feel inspired and creative and I nap if I’m tired. I listen to my body.

I set boundaries with those who drain my energy and my time.

When I get time to myself, I am deep in nature enjoying the beauty of our wonderful world. I have no desire to play into the ‘agro’ outdoors culture anymore.

I don’t play the piano, but I love to write, cook healthy food and read.

I follow my joy, and I allow my higher self to guide me and I let life flow through me. And most importantly I stay true to my own empowerment. I stay true to myself. The self that is beyond the viral belief systems and norms of our paradigm.

And I am here to tell you that YOU–yes YOU are source. You are god. You are a goddess. You are it. You are the life force flow of the universe. You are ‘the force’ as they call it in Star Wars.

YOU are it. You don’t need to keep giving your empowerment away. That person, place, job, relationship is not stealing your empowerment. You are the only one who is giving your empowerment away. It’s all you. Nobody or no thing can control you if you say enough is enough and step into your own truth.

Our old paradigm is full, absolutely full, of others taking advantage of and controlling others. But here’s the thing–you don’t have to let this happen anymore. And you don’t need to keep enabling others and the system to continue to do this.

You don’t need to keep giving your truth and empowerment away to political officials. You don’t need to keep giving your truth and empowerment away to your boss. You don’t need to keep giving your truth and empowerment away to your parents. You don’t need to keep giving your truth and empowerment away to anyone or anything.

By realizing who you truly are–you step back into your divinity and you shape and mold your reality however you like from your heart and from your love and joy of life and the world.

We don’t need to keep yelling at each other across the political aisle. We don’t need to keep ourselves beholden to the fears of lack and limitation. We don’t need to keep ourselves immersed in the extractive, capitalistic structure.

When you fully step into your empowerment you realize that everything you could possibly ever need to be truly fulfilled is all WITHIN you.

The external world can distract you and so much of our current paradigm distracts us from WHO WE TRULY ARE. But we are done playing out these roles of giving up our empowerment.

Go within–everything you could possibly need or desire is within your own heart.

And we don’t need to just stop doing this in our financial institutions or our political system–it’s also time to realize this within our religious and spiritual orders. That guru, that rabbi, that preacher–they are all the same as you. We all have the same love, light, source within us. We are not separate from that. We are not unworthy of that. We are not lesser than that. We all have Christ light. We all have buddha nature. We all have Goddess Isis abilities. We all have Mother Mary compassion. We don’t need to keep giving our empowerment up to spiritual and religious institutions outside of ourselves. YOU are it folks. You are the creatrix/creator.

STEP INTO YOUR EMPOWERMENT. Into your own unique divine expression on this earth.

My heart sees and honors the divine goddess/god within you.

All my love.